all of the selves we Have ever been
I love to-do lists.
I have a general one that I update each morning. No matter how stressful the day ahead, it feels manageable when I see the tasks and deadlines outlined and orderly. I feel empowered by crossing items from the list, so much so that I always start the list with something I have already completed just for the pleasure of drawing a line through it.
Recently, however, I have been thinking about the things I am not going to do any more. This brought me to the recollection of a man I met who was going through a divorce. He said, “It seems like women get into their forties and they just go crazy!” Hmm.
Seems to me that women get into their forties and become peri-menopausal. Their estrogen tanks and their testosterone starts to show off. Technically, I think that makes women over forty more like men. Call me crazy.
Truth is we all grow stronger in our convictions as we get older. I now consider it a privilege, if not a duty, of aging. Blame it on hormones or life experience. At some point, we have all we can take and then we take a stand. We are not so much “set in our ways,” as we are busting loose.
So here are some of the items on my growing not-to-do list:
I could go on, but that would be crazy.